Tag Archives: Mindfulness

A quick update & can blogging be meditative?

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Hello everyone!

Remember me? After a period of rest on the blog, I decided that I do want to continue blogging/writing in some fashion, just not sure the frequency or form yet. Thanks to those who are still with me 🙂 Unfortunately my time away from here was not equal to me working on my personal story writing offline…like I hoped for. However, I did start a business venture, so my need to create took another shape!

Moon River Wellness is up and running (sort of – I am still without a website, business cards, logo, good-working internet, etc.) BUT hey, it’s a work in progress, and it makes me feel proud and slightly insane depending on the day. My biggest challenge at this time is the whole self-promotion deal/putting myself out there. As much as I don’t mind tooting my own horn on occasion, being your biggest cheerleader gets tiring! I admit, I love PR, and I love selling stuff I believe in, but let’s just say doing it for yourself gets old and seems odd – it’s a tough balance but its something all business owners face. In any case, it’s a good learning practice to say and think good things about yourself to others. Hopefully as I gain momentum and clients, they can do the talking for me. But until then, it’s my voice that will have to ring through the valley!

Lucky for me I was at least born an entrepreneur so I’m not totally going against nature.  In middle school I sold beaded lanyards to the teachers at the schools where my parents worked. In high school and college I graduated from lanyards and started selling my jewelry on consignment in 3 shops in 2 different states – KJBEADS, anyone? (This was after my parents told me I had to find a place to sell my stuff because my beading was getting out of control). And by out of control,  what I mean is I was developing early signs of carpal tunnel syndrome from all the beading – doctors told me so, which led me to take a break from the jewelry-making adventures of KJBEADS. Fast-forward to now.

Similar to when I sold jewelry, the way my business of today took shape is simple. I am just turning what I already do on a daily basis into a business. While of course there is new creation happening and the red tape in between, really I am doing the work I already do – which makes it easier.  The difference between the days of KJBEADS versus Moon River Wellness is how I spend and value my time. When you get old(er), suddenly responsibilities happen and choices have to be made. How do you do it keep your head above water, reach your goals AND thrive?

My garden

Gardening as a meditative practice

One thing that has helped me through it all is yoga and meditation. What people don’t always realize is that yoga and meditation can occur in many ways. I’m taking an 8 week meditation class series this summer, and I find the most beneficial mindfulness practice for me lately is working in the garden. Another meditative practice I enjoy is writing. That is what I’m missing lately from not being here. That is why I love blogging. It is my way to meditate, organize my thoughts and then let them go…

Do you meditate? What does your practice look like? Interested in meditation or yoga? Please I’m all ears, send your questions/comments to kali[dot]j[dot]higgins[at]gmail.[dot]com. Also stay tuned for a mindfulness & movement series coming to the Valley hosted by yours truly. There will be a workshop on meditation and then subsequent mindfulness & movement classes this winter! Location to be announced. Meditation, tea & community, folks. Stay tuned. It will be fun, I promise!

In peace, love & well-being,

Kali

Setting goals

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I’ve been staring back and forth between my to-do list and this blank page. Back and forth. Back…and forth.

I’m feeling uninspired, and I wonder why.

lack of motivation

But actually, the more I think about it I don’t wonder at all. I guess I failed to mention that between glancing at my list of tasks and my computer screen, I have also been watching the snow falling tirelessly outside my window. It seems to never end.

I will skip detailing my Earth day/global warming/look outside and see the evidence speech (although I feel it stirring within me a little), because most of our spirits would not benefit from that right now. I know it certainly wouldn’t motivate me, and right now I need some motivation.

So, how is it that I continue to type? Because I am in the business of goal setting. The goal I set for myself that is due for tomorrow is “to write a blog post”. What is interesting about this goal I set is that when I ask myself the question, “why is it important to me?” I draw a blank…

Why do I write blogs?

If I had to play coach on myself, the immediate answer I guess is simple, I write blogs with the hope to share information and stories that I believe may be helpful to others. Is that enough to motivate me to write? No, not always.

I’m sorry. I do love you all, but it’s not enough to get me going everyday – especially on a day like today. And if I put on my coaching hat, I understand that my tendency is completely normal. External motivators will not give me the strongest push to follow through with the goals I set in life. The best motivation comes from within. It has to be connected to me and nobody else. I have to care (unlike the fellow in the photo).

Lucky for you/and me, I am quite stubborn, so despite having no idea what this post would entail as I started, I came on anyway and am doing it just so I can cross it off my list. Am I proud of that? Not necessarily.

So what does this all mean, then?

What it means for me is that I need to look more carefully at my blogging practice and determine what it is that I really get from it. Because as altruistic as I’d like to be, I know that if I am not able to answer the question in a way that connects my goal of writing a blog to a personal need, then it is going to be tough for me to sustain it in a way that is genuine and enjoyable for everyone. By understanding why it is important to me, I will be able to deliver content that is more meaningful for all of us, and theoretically I would not have to drag my feet so much (resist) when I come on to write.

From prose to practice

Next time you set a goal and you find your progress is stalling, ask yourself, why is it important to me? Wait patiently for the answer to come and see what you learn. Give yourself some time. Don’t rush the process. If you wait and wait and still can’t figure it out, ask yourself how you can shift your goal in a way that would create more meaning for you.

Or book an appointment with me and we can talk it through together 🙂 Email me at kali[dot]j[dot]higgins[at]gmail[dot]com. Stay tuned for more details/website launch coming soon! 🙂

Less stress, more living series

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stress cartoon

First off, if you haven’t already noticed, Huffington Post has a Less stress, more living series. Check it out.

Second, if you have an hour to spare and want to engage your intellect or dedicate some time to think about stress management in your life (and in our schools and in our hospitals), below is a thought-provoking discussion/debate on the topic to accompany your Saturday morning cup o’ joe/tea. (Just be sure not to multi-task and be mindful as you watch, right?) 🙂

The video is a forum brought to you from a partnership between Harvard School of Public Health and Huffington Post Living. Very cool. Here is the video link.

If you don’t have time and the thought of a 1-hr educational video stresses you out, here are some highlights to note from the conversation:

  • Stress is a big problem and every symptom and disease is amplified by stress.
  • Stress is not distributed equally to people in society. People of lower education and socioeconomic status are hit harder.
  • The medical system does not have a systematized process for dealing with stress in their patients and more and more people are affected by it.
  •  There are studies that show that doctors advise patients to do what they tend to do. If they like to exercise they advise patients to exercise, if they like to check their lipids, they advise their clients to check their lipids. Makes sense. One panelist said that we need more practitioners and doctors in the world who model and understand techniques and behaviors that promote healthy living and stress reduction. Until people begin to walk their talk, they will not be prepared or qualified to offer helpful advice or resources to their patients (as it pertains to stress).
  • Health coaches and yoga teachers are becoming popular – my personal plug 🙂 and will have a greater presence and role in the collective’s ability to navigate our health.
  • Some food for thought: What should mental health centers of the future look like? What should the portfolio of options look like?  As our collective stress will only continue to grow, we do not want to limit our delivery of the new model of care and should be open to the fact that there is no one prescription to address stress, there are many.